Consulting

EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION 1024 576 David Attricki

EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Introduction

Communication is the essence of life. It is necessary. Communication is part and parcel of our daily interactions with people. Without that mankind would be better off living in isolation. Without communication treaties and relationships would not have been made between countries, people, communities and ethnicities. Ideas would be difficult to generate because without the existence of communication, how would you tell your ideas to others. Desires and feelings would be hard to express.

What is Communication?

Communication can be defined as how we give and receive information and convey our ideas and opinions with people around us. Communication is a two-way street; It involves both how we send and receive messages.

One important point to take note is that communication varies. For instance, communicating ideas in the world of work is different from communicating in an academic setting. In a classroom setting, the teacher usually leads the group discussions the students respond or ask questions when directed to do so. In the work environment, your supervisors may ask you of your opinion.

Communication can be categorized into several aspects these are:

  • Verbal communication
  • Non-verbal communication
  • Aural
  • Written and visual communication
  • Verbal communication: it is defined as the use of sounds and words to express yourself this is in contrast in using hand gestures to communicate.
  • Non-verbal communication: this is defined as the use of facial expressions, hand gestures, body positions in communicating this is done in absence of words and sounds. This could be linked to body language.
  • Aural communication: this involves the transmission of information through the auditory sensory system. (The system of speaking and hearing). It usually encompasses both verbal communication and paralinguistic communication to convey meaning.
  • Written and visual communication: it is the process of conveying messages through the use of words. To further explain, any message that is exchanged between two or more people through the use of written words is defined as a written communication.

The importance of effective communication

To an employer, good communication skills are essential, employers rank good communication skills at the top of the list of potential employees. Ideas and message are relayed across to each other without the occurrence of miscommunication.

When can communication be described as “effective”?

Effective communication is about more than just exchanging communication. It is about understanding the emotions and intentions behind the information. It is also about being able to clearly convey the message.

When is Communication ineffective?

Ineffective communication can be defined as the attempt to communicate something to others but it is perceived differently than what you intended. All too often, when we try to communicate with others, something goes astray. We say one thing and the other person hears something else and misunderstanding, frustration and conflict ensue. Effects of this can cause problems in home, school and the work environment

What is stopping you from communicating effectively?

Stress and out of control emotion:

When you are stressed or emotionally overwhelmed, you are more likely to misread other people, send confusing or off-putting nonverbal signals, and lapse into unhealthy knee-jerk patterns of behaviour. To avoid conflict and misunderstandings, you can learn how to quickly calm down before continuing a conversation.

Lack of focus:

You can’t communicate effectively when you are multitasking. If you are checking your email or planning what you are going to say next or daydreaming. You are likely not going to understand what the person is saying to you. You need to avoid distractions and be focused.

Inconsistent body language:

Nonverbal communication should reinforce what is being said and not contradict it. If you say one thing, but your body language says something else, your listener will feel that you are being dishonest. An example is saying yes whilst you are shaking your head no.

Tips in mastering the art of effective communication

  • Engaged listening: always listen carefully to what others have to say. Effective communication is more of less talking and more listening. We listen for many different reasons: to understand instructions, to empathize with another individual, or to judge whether a plan is good or not.
  • Ask questions: for communication to be effective, if one has difficulty in understanding what the other person has said. The best solution is to ask questions.
  • Avoid interrupting other people especially when they are speaking. Respect them by letting them finish saying what they are saying.
  • Nonverbal communication: e.g. maintaining eye contact to the person you are speaking to.
  • Asserting yourself in a respectful way: being assertive means expressing thoughts and feelings and needs in an open and honest way, while standing up for yourself and respecting others.
  • Communicate clearly: for communication to be effective, make sure everything you say is understood. Be confident in saying what you need to say but be tactful. It is significant to avoid giving vague and ambiguous messages.

Conclusion

With communication, ideas and opinions would be understood amongst ourselves. Misunderstandings and confusion would then cease to become an issue in the work environment, the home and our society as a whole.

DEMYSTIFYING WOMEN EMPOWERMENT AND FEMINISM: WOMEN’S ENGAGEMENT IN NATIONAL AND COMMUNITY DEVELOPMENT. SPEECH DELIVERED BY DR. MRS. HAGAN AT THE NATIONAL WOMEN ACTION CONFERENCE – IDEA FACTOR 1024 683 David Attricki

DEMYSTIFYING WOMEN EMPOWERMENT AND FEMINISM: WOMEN’S ENGAGEMENT IN NATIONAL AND COMMUNITY DEVELOPMENT. SPEECH DELIVERED BY DR. MRS. HAGAN AT THE NATIONAL WOMEN ACTION CONFERENCE – IDEA FACTOR

Good afternoon, distinguished ladies and gentlemen, it is my pleasure to speak to you this morning on a topic that is dear to my heart.

Because I am one that tends to see a glass as half full rather than half empty, I do believe in the social, economic, and political equality of the sexes. That is Feminism! I strongly believe so even though it is still very much a man’s world.

My conviction is that empowering women is the process through which we can make this belief a reality.  Afterall, what is the point in one woman being empowered when millions are not?

I will want us to accept that our progress to this ideal is hindered by our own sense of self worth.  We women must accept that we have been stereotyped and stop accepting to be in these boxes society has put us in. Sadly, we do not even realize it that we have to do the work ourselves and shift our mindset.  The first step, though is accepting that we need to change our mindset.  A few days ago, I was part of a panel discussion of a women’s group of very talented professional women in a male dominated profession and the female president in a bid to explain why we should not compare ourselves to others said and I quote “if your husband has not yet to bought a car for you and your friend’s husband has done so, don’t compare….” I broke protocol and interrupted the President and asked “why can’t she buy a car for herself or even for her husband and must wait for her husband to do so” … This, coming from a highly accomplished woman leader says it all. Someone who probably bought her OWN car and other things for herself and others.   What then can we expect from someone less educated, less accomplished?

We have a lot of work to do.  We must make use of our most important resource as women, time.  We will attend all functions – Let’s take a quick look at the schedule of a typical woman for a Saturday – Outdooring at 7.30 a.m – dress code white – after the outdooring, we must make an appearance at a funeral – dress code is black, so we dart into a washroom available and change into black ..after the funeral I must absolutely show my face at a friend’s wedding so the colour code is green so there I pop into another washroom nearby and change and make an appearance…. The list goes on.

We do not have time to exercise, we do not have time for preventive medicine and do our periodic check ups, as a result, diseases that could be prevented, we are getting and dying and leaving our children in distress… because we women are the fulcrum of our families.  What hurts me is a disease like cervical cancer takes 15 to 20 years for cervical cancer to develop in women with normal immune systems. It can take only 5 to 10 years in women with weakened immune systems, and yet how many of us take time off to have our pap smear.

So how do we empower our women?

  • education: education, education, advocacy, affirmative action…
  • WE MUST BE EXCELLENT AND EXPERTS IN OUR LINE OF WORK SO WE ARE TAKEN SERIOUSLY. MEDIOCRITY IS NOT AN OPTION
  • WE should dress decently.
  • when you are in positions of influence, put policies in place to help fresh mothers, as an HR practitioner I believe a lot could be done in the world of work if we were more intentional about making women more hungry – hungry for leadership positions, with the current situation, we leave the men to decide on policies for our welfare and they get it wrong as they do not know how it is like to be a woman and they wont ask us, because they think they know.
  • We should be intentional about increasing women participation in national and community development.
  • Mentor a girl close to home or at work.
  • Tell the women in your life that you care be kind to one another and speaks words of affirmation to the young girls
  • We are the ones who train the boy child. Teach them to be feminists!!
  • If you choose to get married, choose the right man. Do not be pressured into marrying just anybody because of the ticking of the biological clock

To conclude, as women, we should not let ourselves be defined by the restrictions that are placed on us but we should find ways to be the movers of the changes we want to see in the way women in our society are treated.  Thank you.

“KNOWING YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE” – SPEECH DELIVERED BY DR. MRS. ELLEN HAGAN 1024 683 David Attricki

“KNOWING YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE” – SPEECH DELIVERED BY DR. MRS. ELLEN HAGAN

Good morning, ladies and gentlemen. My name is Ellen Hagan, CEO of L’AINE services Limited and I am very much delighted to be here with you this morning. I will be sharing with you on the topic “knowing your purpose”.

Life is a journey. We are all travelling inevitably towards the end of our lives. We will either coast through life with no sense of direction or with lives of purpose and fulfillment. The race is on. Where are you going and what are you doing about it?

The word “purpose” can best be described as the reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.

Why must we know our life’s purpose?

Everyone’s life is driven by something – guilt, worry or fear, insecurity, anger, resentment, their past, possessions, parents, money, etc. God wants us to be purpose driven people, driven by His plan, His purpose for our lives. Before God even planned the world, He planned you. When He planned you, He planned your purpose even before you were born. When you fulfill your life purpose it brings honour to God and it brings satisfaction to yourself.

How can I know my purpose in life?

I believe everyone was created to solve a problem and your success is dependent on your ability to discover that problem and solve it. Finding this problem is discovering your purpose, solving this problem is accomplishing your purpose. Below are a few pointers/questions that will help you know or discover your purpose;

  • What do you love to do?
    Your purpose is directly related to what you love. The most purposeful people in the world spend their time doing what they love. Bill Gates loves computers, Oprah loves helping, and the Newton’s loved to invent. What do you love? Is it reading, writing, playing sports, singing, painting, business, selling, talking, listening, cooking, fixing broken things. Whatever you love, it’s directly related to your purpose.
  • What do you do in your free time?
    Whatever you do in your free time is a sign of your purpose. If you like to paint in your free time, then that’s a sign. If you like to cook, that’s a sign, if you like to talk, that’s a sign. Follow the signs. What do you do in your free time? What would you like to do if you had more free time? Would you teach or design clothes?
  • What do you love to learn about?
    What kinds of books or magazines do you like to read? Do you read about cooking, business, or fishing? What do you love to learn about? If you had a library, what books would you like to have in that library?
  • What sparks your creativity?
    Is it painting, designing, building, speaking, or selling? What sparks your creativity, do you have ideas for new food recipes, or a new creative automotive web site?
  • What do you notice?
    A salesman notices an uninspiring sales pitch, a hairdresser notices someone’s hair is out of place, a designer notices an awkward outfit, a mechanic hears something wrong with your car, a singer notices when someone’s voice is out of pitch, a speaker notices an uninspiring speech. What do you notice? What annoys you?
  • What do people compliment you on?
    What “fans” do you have? If no one likes your cooking, then you probably won’t make a good chef. Do people compliment your writing, or your singing, or your amazing ability to sell? Once again, this is a sign of your purpose.
  • What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
    Would you start a salon, go on a singing contest or start your own business? What would you do if success was guaranteed? It’s a sign to your purpose.

Benefits of living a purpose-driven life: 

Knowing your purpose gives meaning to your life:

We were made to have meaning. When life has meaning, you can bear almost anything; without it, nothing is bearable. A young man in his twenties wrote, “I feel like a failure because I’m struggling to become something, and I don’t even know what it is. All I know how to do is to get by. Someday, if I discover my purpose, I’ll feel I’m beginning to live.” Without God, Life has no purpose, without purpose, life has no meaning. Without meaning, life has no significance or hope. Hope is essential to your life as air and water. You need hope to cope. Hope comes from having a purpose.

Knowing your purpose simplifies your life:

It defines what you do and what you don’t do. Your purpose becomes the standard you use to evaluate which activities are essential and which aren’t. You simply ask, “Does this activity help me fulfill one of the purposes of my life?” Without a clear purpose you have no foundation on which you base decisions, allocate your time, and use your resources. You will tend to make choices based on circumstances, pressures, and your mood at that moment. People who don’t know their purpose try to do too much-and that causes stress, fatigue, and conflict.

Knowing your purpose focuses your life:

It concentrates your effort and energy on what’s important. You become effective by being selective. Without a clear purpose, you will keep changing directions, jobs, relations, churches, or other externals, hoping each change will settle the confusion or fill the emptiness in your heart. You think, maybe this time it will be different, but it doesn’t solve your real problem- a lack of focus and purpose. There is nothing quiet as potent as a focused life, one lived on purpose. The men and women who have made the greatest difference in history were the most focused. If you want your life to have impact, focus it! Stop playing dabbling. Stop trying to do it all. Do less. Prune away even good activities and do only that which matters most. Never confuse activity with productivity. You can be busy without a purpose, but what’s the point?

Knowing your purpose motivates your life:

Purpose always produces passion. Nothing energizes like a clear purpose. On the other hand, passion dissipates when you lack a purpose. Just getting out of bed becomes a major chore. It is usually meaningless work, not overwork, that wears us down, saps our strength, and robs our joy.
Knowing your purpose prepares you for eternity:

Many people spend their lives trying to create a lasting legacy on earth. They want to be remembered when they’re gone. Yet, what ultimately matters most will not be what others say about your life but what God says. What people fail to realize is that all achievements are eventually surpassed, records are broken, reputations fade, and tributes are forgotten. Living to create an earthly legacy is a short-sighted goal. A wiser use of time is to build an eternal legacy. You weren’t put on earth to be remembered. You were put here to prepare for eternity.
One day when you stand before God, He would demand from you, “What did you do with what I gave you?” At most, you will live a hundred years on earth, but you will spend forever in eternity. Your time on earth is, as Sir Thomas Browne said, “but a small parenthesis in eternity.” You were made to last forever.

Now you know your purpose, what next? (CHOOSING A CAREER PATH)

You have come to the point where you have to make some choices.

  • You have found what you like
  • You have found some occupations that seem to match those aspects of your personality
  • You have done the required research and learned more about these particular occupations- what they have to offer you and what you have to offer

NOW– Evaluate your options and make a choice. Your goal is to find the “most appropriate one”, not the “correct” one.

There are a lot of occupations. There will not be ONE single one that will suit you much better than all others.

Steps in the Decision-Making Process

  1. Name the decision. Write it down in a question format – this helps to clarify your decision and helps you keep it in mind. Eg; what occupation would I like to be in 5years from now.
  2. List alternatives (write out at least 2)
  3. Evaluate the alternatives and decide. Write down the potential outcomes of each alternative- both positive and negative for you and for your loved ones.
  4. Test your choice
  • Summer job
  • Take a course related to the chosen alternative
  • Volunteer in the area
  • Shadow someone who works in the same occupation
  1. Evaluate your decision (how well did your choice work)

FOOD FOR THOUGHT

We should not compare ourselves to others (Kwaku works for an NGO or Financial Institution). Some of us could also be entrepreneurs. The point is that, at the early stages in our lives, it may not be easy to see what options we are most suited for.

We should not be too choosy. If we do not try something, how do we know whether we will succeed or not? “Nothing ventured, nothing gained”. There are so many examples of people who started out doing menial jobs and through perseverance, those seemingly menial jobs provided the breakthrough.

We should not be obsessed with what people think of us- and should not be swayed by the trend we find ourselves born into – white collar jobs are respected and admired. What happens then is that when we finish school, everybody wants to work with a big firm or bank or NGO.

I would like to end by challenging you all to go out there and find out your purpose, to those who have already found it, I urge you to continue living it. It is on by living a purposeful life that we can live life to its fullest.

Thank you.

CORPORATE NETWORKING AND WORK ETIQUETTE 1024 684 David Attricki

CORPORATE NETWORKING AND WORK ETIQUETTE

Introduction

In this digital age, the ability to effectively connect with industry captains and key business leaders as well as nurture excellent work ethics will be the single most important differentiator between those that will succeed and those that will not.

Global statistics clearly indicate that this is a youthful generation. About seventy percent of the world populations are below 35 years. And two thirds of them are in Africa. The key challenges the youth are faced with include: unemployment (jobs), terrorism, infiltration of foreign culture and lack of mentorship

Unemployment

According to the African centre for economic transformation (ACET), about fifty percent of graduates would not find jobs after school. Conversely, as an HR practioner, I can say emphatically that there are still job vacancies that are difficult to fill owing to competency mismatch. Employers prefer to hire people they already know or people that are recommended to them by a friend.

Corporate Networking

This is defined as the skill of fostering and maintaining key relationships that create mutual value for the parties involved. There are four things to note about corporate networking.

  • It is a level for personal growth.
  • It benefits the learner
  • It is the single most important skill in life, business and career development
  • It can be learnt, nurtured and deployed.

Success is a decision and a habit. You must be specific and intentional about what you want in order to get it. In networking there are a few pointers that must be taken into consideration.

How to network

  • Have a reason for wanting to connect –: what is the purpose for wanting to network, is it for grooming in terms of career guidance, academia, personal and spiritual growth, is it for mentoring, or in search of a job or internship
  • Identify who you want to connect with and where to find them –this starts with the people you know or who your parents know. This could be from the neighbourhood, church, social media, corporate events among others.
  • Introduce yourself as doing or having passion for something as he/she is doing – public speaking, what do you both have in common this should be in line with what the person is doing examples could be public speaking, academic and scientific research, among others.
  • Say something you read about them to them: This could be their own book, biography etc. Not only does this serves as a form of flattery to the person you are networking with but also it gives the person the assumption that you have a keen interest in what their field of work. It is therefore a necessity to do research on them before meeting in person.
  • Report on your progress: after the networking phase, there is a period within which you learn from your mentor/coach always write a review based on what you have learnt and how it has helped you.
  • Offer to help to boost his/her professional success (write feature articles for him/her) this could be achieved by offering to be of his or her service by working with him or her.
  • Ask for help: this could be in terms of recommendation, or by using him or her as a reference in your CV
  • Getting in touch: It is essential to get in touch the same day via text messages reminding him/her of your meeting and affirming your commitment to learn. Remember to ask to call specific times and keep the appointment. Never call more than once or twice. If you fail to reach them the first time, send a text or a WhatsApp message. Always plan what to discuss each time you call

 

Where to network

  • Church: the church could be a good place to network especially if you attend the same church with him or her. If that is not the case, get to know their place of worship and time of closure and hang around to meet them.
  • Corporate & Social events: When starting small, go to events and programmes that you would be able to learn something educational and valuable. Examples of corporate events are Ted talks, Festival of Ideas, Ghana Economic Forum, HR Focus Conference, Golf tournaments etc. are most likely places to meet key industry leaders Take the initiative in volunteering in these events even though you are not being paid, it is an opportunity to meet and work with new people
  • Social media: social media has made it easier to meet the people you would have had to book appointments to meet. According to Rev. Albert Ocran “You can meet just about anybody in the world simply by going through a chain of at most seven people”

 

Where to start from

  • Friends of parents: It is essential to start with the people that your parents know. This is termed as personal networking. Indulge them concerning matters that are in relation to your personal growth. This could be in terms of career guidance, developing a skill, how to prepare for the job market and so on. Get to know them by name, their profession, volunteer to intern for free in their companies
  • Friends of friends: To maintain your personal network always keep in touch with your friends and colleagues. You may never know when someone is going to turn from a passing acquaintance into a useful contact. Be up to date with where your old friends have been up to in relation to not only their social lives but also their work lives.  Also, your friends have friends. Reach out to them.
  • Social media connections: ponder over this question; you have over 2500 friends on Facebook, how many of them have you personally reached out to?

Get connected

  • What do we do with business cards: a business card could serve as a means of getting in touch with a person via telephone, email or text message. Once a business card has been, always remember to not discard them as these might come in handy.
  • Once we meet people how do we stay connected: this could be achieved by taking their contact number after interacting with them or requesting for a call card.
  • Effective Networking involves a lot of work: when it comes to networking, it is seen as the necessary good in order to achieve results. If it is something that will benefit you (in terms of career development, academia,) are you willing to go the extra mile to achieve that. Change never comes easy.
  • TOMA (Top of Mind Awareness): what is the reason why you want to network? This can go to the how, and where
  • Influence: this deals with how you are able to get the attention and interest of the person to the extent that he or she willing to help and work with you.

Work Etiquette

Work etiquette is a social code that governs the expectations of behaviour in a workplace. These are rules about how people treat each other in formal situations. The common name for etiquette is MANNERS.

Key pointers of positive work etiquette

  • Interpersonal relations: This talk of relating well with others in the workplace this is regardless of the differences you and your colleagues may have in terms of race, ethnicity, gender, disability, political views, religion, among others. Remember always be the bigger person and be willing to get along with others.
  • Communication skills: How you relay your points across to your work colleagues is an important factor. also be a good listener
  • Business growth (generating new ideas): what would you contribute to the development and growth to the business? What business ideas would you have in mind and how would they benefit the business.
  • Values: this involves acting with integrity and honesty at all times
  • Deliver results: this involves critical thinking and problem solving at work. If there is a task to be done, always find the means and ways by which the task would be accomplished. Be solution- oriented.

Basic Rules:

  • Report to work on time: always be punctual when it comes to reporting to work on time. If there is a situation that you will be reporting to work late remember to ask for permission but do not let this be often.
  • Focus on your deliverables:
  • Use your energy and time wisely: it is essential to master the art of time management as this helps prioritizing on what task should performed first. Avoid stalling when there is work to be done.
  • Seek help if need be: keep a ‘buddy’ (a friend that helps you easily settle into the culture). The buddy system always come in handy especially when one is facing difficulty adjusting to the working environment
  • Be attentive to detail: Always be detail-oriented as one minor mistake will not only hold you liable but also the business as a whole which may result to a major loss or a law suit
  • Show leadership: take initiative by taking active part and being committed to company projects. Take the initiative by taking in more responsibility and perform work that is outside of your general nature of work.
  • Report on work done: whenever there is a task to be accomplished, there is always a deadline that is to be met. Always set targets or have a to-do list as to what work should be done first. Avoid stalling. as the saying goes procrastination is the thief of time
  • Go the extra mile: burn the midnight oil by staying late sometimes to get work done or working over the weekend to get the work done.
  • Give off your best: to deliver excellent results, always do your best especially when it comes to performing your work. Sometimes doing your best may not deliver good results but that does not mean that you must not give in your all.
  • Avoid the office politics: office politics can be defined as an action or strategy people use to gain advantage in terms of status and power

Changing the world of work

  • Change mindset
  • ++to learn and get a salary
  • ++only there for what they are getting
  • ++contribute for themselves, business of one=being the owner
  • Career responsibility shifts to the individual
  • ++Linked to results and not how long you study
  • ++good performers are hurried up the ladder
  • You can only grow someone who wants to grow themselves

Employee development shifts to the individual

  • Seeking a variety of assignments
  • Tackling tough problems
  • Asking for feedback
  • Coaching – opportunities to coach others
  • Energy to make the development possible
  • Consider specific goals. New skills…. ways to meet these goals

What employers are looking for in employees

  • Positive Attitude
  • Team spirit
  • Solution oriented
  • Patience
  • Loyalty
  • Contentment
  • professionalism

Good personal grooming

  • Personal hygiene first step to good grooming
  • Hair…shaving….
  • Dental issues…brushy, tongue
  • Nails
  • Body odour
  • Mouth odour
  • Make up
  • Jewellery
  • Professional dress code

Do not let your image sabotage your career

  • What are you “saying” before you speak a word?
  • To get ahead in any career pay attention to your workplace image as it is a powerful communicator.
  • The non-verbal messages your image sends can work on your behalf, or they can work against you.
  • Look business like, yet stylish and not boring like a corporate filing cabinet